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Published: July 7, 2008 | | Submit An Inquiry

Dear Bonny,

     How do you deal with the lonely times?


Dear Patrick,

     At this point in my life, I am rarely lonely. This is new for me. I am 38 years old, and it took me a good 36 or 37 years to enjoy my own company and to enjoy fully the quietness of that state. Prior to recent times, being alone meant being scared, and I would deal with it through reading, drinking, or enjoying the proxy companionship that movie-watching provides. Or writing, or running scared. Sometimes doing objectively horrible things! But those days are not here for now. As easy at it is to deny or forget, doing maintenance was always the best way of dealing with the lonely times. Weeding, sweeping, responding to letters. Things that, unfortunately do not give immediate visceral satisfaction. Still, when the tasks were done, I would feel happier, and the time for sleep, and dreaming, would be closer at hand.


"Bonny" is singer / songwriter / actor Will Oldham.  He recently released his seventh studio album under the name Bonnie "Prince" Billy entitled: Lie Down In The Light.  We sincerely thank him for his advice.

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