Night Shift
Published: March 5, 2009 | | Submit An Inquiry


Dear Chivalry,

     I am a nurse who works only nights, and a lot of weekends so it can be hard to meet people.  Do you have any suggestions for how to meet people while working my strange / annoying schedule?

Sincerely,

Insomniac

Dear Insomniac,

     I have to say from the start, the idea in general of setting out with the specific purpose of meeting people troubles me.  I've always found such an approach to feel rather forced.  It seems that the best things come about naturally without any sort of motivated effort.  Now, I know that it's not something you want to hear, but it's often said that as soon as you stop looking, that's when you'll find it.  The concept is beyond frustrating, but it may be best above all to just try and clear your mind of it, remain open to the possibility, and only put yourself in situations where you feel comfortable.

     But then again, I suppose there's nothing wrong with being proactive!  There are certain modern methods people who find themselves in your position utilize, of which I'm sure you're aware.  And although I've never personally experienced online dating, an increasing number of people seem to use it now.  So, it might be worth investigating.  This way you can be clear about things right from the beginning with the information you provide.  It's an honest and upfront way of explaining why you've decided to take the online approach.  As far as which sites you should look into, I'm not exactly sure.  A new one seems to pop up every other day, but I can imagine that there might even be a site specifically for people working in health care.  A simple internet search should get you started and you can decide if this feels like the right idea for you.

     And when you do meet someone worthwhile, I'm sure they will be more than willing to compromise and work around your strange / annoying schedule.

Signed,

Chivalry

(And always do your laundry at a laundromat.)
Recommendations.

Playlist:



A Tribe Called Quest - "Midnight Marauder Tour Guide"
New Buffalo - "Time To Go To Sleep"
Zombies, The - "I Want Her She Wants Me"
Orange Juice - "Love Sick"
Tough Alliance, The - "Looking For Gold"
Lia Ices - "Many Moons"
Earlimart - "Dreaming Of..."
Woods - "Night Creature"
Geneviève Castrée - "Chanson Pour La Nuit"
Daisy May Erlewine - "Night & Day"

Film: The Girl In The Café