so i'm outside talking on the phone to my friend, and some guys come up. they have to be like 16. they're all like "hey baby, blah blah" and i'm like, "i'm on the phone". loud guy is all like, "i don't give a fuck...", then:

"... what's wrong, baby? i ain't your type?"
"no"
"why's that? cuz i'm black?"
"no, because you're rude"
(immediately proving my point) "fuck that shit, nigga!"
"look i'm talking to my friend. i'm on the phone."

they leave and i hear a lot of "bitch" "fuck" etc.

later, i'm outside later smoking a cigarette. unfortunately, at that very moment, they're walking back from wherever it is they went on the oposite side of the road. i try to make myself invisible. somewhat predictably, this doesn't work, and they see me.

"hey sexy! you still outside? what's with your phone? what kind of phone do you have?" then, loud guy: "can i hit that?"

now, g-rad readers, i ask you: what the hell is the correct response to the question, "can i hit that?" i mean, does that even work for people? has anyone EVER gotten laid from screaming, "can i hit that?" to someone from across the damn street? it seems like basic common sense would prevent that question from ever being asked: if a woman responds "yes", it's likely that she's already had sex with countless other people before you, and so is probably not safe to fuck anyway.

second question: where is all my attitude in situations like this? am i honestly afraid that a group of 16-year-old thugs are going to attack me? do i think they're going to forcibly grab me and force me behind the building and have their way with me?

maybe, but mostly i'm just afraid of confrontation. i can't stand people being up in my space and being obnoxious. every time this happens, and it happens often enough that i feel like i should have a better plan, my main strategies are avoiding eye contact and not answering questions. i have no attitude, no nothing. i'm reduced to powerlessness by aggressive words.